5 ways to stop being jealous in your relationship

By Prathyusha Vedula

A relationship is one of the best things that happen in one’s life. You feel very proud of your partner, tend to show off, and start to enhance possessiveness. The initial stages of your relationship seem to really sweet until another male/female(definitely a best friend of him/her of the opposite gender)enters the scene. You endure lumps of jealousy when your partner is acting to be too comfortable with them. If you are the one experiencing this, here are 5 ways to stop being jealous in your relationship.

#1 Firstly, do not react to anything immediately!

If you’re having a good time together and all of a sudden a flirty text from your partner’s best friend pops up on his/her phone, you instantaneously get out of the happy mood and start to feel so low how much ever you try to be normal. Your mind immediately shifts moods and you tend to even yell at your partner. This only brings about a negative transition to your relation. Count to three, analyze, and still if you want to, go on!

#2 Find out if your jealousy is out of insecurity in your relationship

Jealousy transpires to have many reasons for a person. But in a relationship, the most justified reason for jealousy is insecurity. At this point, work on your reasons for insecurity. You might not feel secure in two situations:

1. When you feel you don’t have a good physical appearance or you aren’t confident about your body.

2. Fear of losing your partner because he/she is surrounded by interesting people than you.

In any of the above situations, there is nothing to worry about. If your relationship is once decided to be forever, and you’ve put the required amount of effort you should, no matter what happens, it doesn’t break. The trust and love you have for each other is the only thing that counts.

#3 Talk to your partner and explain how you feel

When you have come to that verge of emotional explosion where things are bugging you since ages, COME-ON! Open up, dude! Sit with your partner over a cup of coffee or by the shore or at your most comfortable place. Communicate the fact that his/her association with their best friend is not so comfy to you. Even if your partner is short-tempered, this may initially feel like a tough task but trust yourself, this works. Also, without you leaving your mind wandering alone in the air, overthinking and making assumptions, this is the best way to solve your doubts and free yourself from all the queries.

#4 Stand in the shoes of your friend and think

Possessiveness is one of the main characteristics of portraying love and cannot be controlled. One definitely feels possessive about his/her love. You feel as if you have all rights on your partner, more than anyone else does. When there comes a situation where these sets of rights are being utilized by another, you again feel either low or annoyed. You either lack confidence in you or your partner. This is the time where you need to stop for a second, step into the shoes of that friend and dissect to be positive.

#5 Don’t compare yourself to any other person

This is the common target towards which your mind shifts very often. The reason may be anything, but the only reason you feel is, “He is interesting, unlike me. He has a perfect body. He earns greater than me. Is he good at dancing too? He seems better than me in every aspect. Why god � ?NO! The answer to everything should be no! ( even though it might be true). You just cannot compare two humans who have different parents, different raised conditions, different ideologies, or two different bodies! Every girl or boy is unique in their own ways. If you really feel this is the problem, don’t be silly. If your partner really wants to leave you, he/she would find a better reason than this. So, chill babe.

The following tip is just a bonus!

#6 If you still feel uncomfortable in your relationship, you know what to do!

If everything from your side goes so well, but still you lack that particular essence in your relationship, then it is time to say goodbye! This is the most undesirable stage after you have put a million tonnes of effort and energy to keep it alive, your ex-doesn’t deserve such a kind, little heart, like you. EX-ALREADY!

Also share any similar ways that worked in your relationship, in the comments below